In the past, women were groomed to be homemakers. Women were not expected to be the breadwinners of the family because it was a man’s job. He brought home the groceries, and women used to cook & waited for the scraps.
By the mid-20th century, times began to change after the Depression, and families saw the benefit of having more than one income to stay afloat. While most men were still adjusting to the sudden change, women were becoming more independent and satisfied with making money to provide for their families, however, children were losing both their parents to the workforce.
Today, women have a choice when it comes to their families: She can be a working woman who cares for her home and brings home a cheque, or she can choose to stay at home and be the queen of the castle, managing everything that goes on under her roof.
Neither position has to be a lifetime commitment, but it has to be a choice that the family can support and makes everyone, especially mom, happy.
It’s always been fascinating to me that when asked “What do you do?” people answer with a job title having a job or doing something useful in the eyes of society.
What if I don’t work? I have a cherished title of ‘MOTHER.’
When my son was born, I decided to become a stay-at-home mother.
People found it odd that a woman who graduated with honors would choose to stay-at-home with her child, but my degree never went to waste. I used my knowledge in raising my child so that his souls would shine.
I take great pride in working hard and investing my time, energy, and heart into what I do. Because at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what the outside world thinks of me — what matters is how my child sees me, and how I see myself. The time allowed me to spend time with my little one and watch him develop. Being with him made me realize that giving your little one time is one of the most precious gifts you can share with them because this time will never come back. According to me, we need to focus on what you’re good at, what you enjoy, and what you’re focused on.
My enjoyment is in seeing the development of my son. His radiant smile makes my day… Constant messes and sleepless nights got into my routine. His tiny little footprints are a precious treasure for me to keep. I was overjoyed to capture his first steps. My Heart Melted When I heard “Mama” for the First time. It was so fun to drive him to Preschool.
5 Things Motherhood Has Taught Me
1. Unconditional love
I understood what a mother’s love is all about when I myself became a mother. It’s an experience best lived rather than described. Mothers go ahead and do their work without complaining because of the love they have for their children.
2. Your kids don’t want a perfect mom, they want a happy mom.
Being stressed all the time is no way to live. I have learned to abandon perfection and shifted my focus to enjoy my life. It has also taught me that every day is a new adventure and a new learning experience.
3. Little moments that matter.
Everyday moments become beautiful memories.
Capturing the glimpse of your child’s special moments like learning to walk, drinking with a straw for fun, learning to ride a bicycle, cuddling in my arms for sleep. Being able to witness those little moments make me so full.
It’s more important to be a patient mom because our kids are actively observing and learning from our behaviors. So if you feel stressed as a new mom, just concentrate on the unique positives of a cute, little baby and know that it won’t be like this for long. It has taught me to be patient while they are trying to learn new things.
We’re all so happy when we have time to enjoy each other! It’s taught me flexibility – plans change constantly, especially with a toddler and a newborn!
5. Rediscover Yourself:
Motherhood changes you. It teaches you to be less self-centered, more giving, and to make sacrifices for the good of others. The key is to not let the role of mothering keep you from becoming aware of who you are.
There are lots of stay-at-home moms, who become bored and depressed. Don’t be one of them. Learn to redefine your interests. Motherhood has taught me incredible time management skills.
Cultivating a love of learning gave me a new perspective about life.
The first 2 years, whenever my little one used to doze off, it was the best time for me to learn. I try to avoid working in front of him as babies need mothers, not the screen. Young impressionable minds learn a lot by observing us.
As my son started going to kindergarten, I started making more time for myself. Solely out of passion, I started a YouTube channel – ‘Mind tricks by Jyoti’ to spread motivation and positivity for a better world.
I studied about Positive Psychology and elevated my knowledge about parenting skills. Motherhood gave me the opportunity to enhance my profession as a Parenting Coach, wherein I help parents to cultivate a better relationship with their children.
“You make sacrifices to become a mother, but you really find yourself and your soul”
– Marishka Hargitay
Motherhood is not a destination, it’s a journey. It’s a beginning – the beginning of finding yourself, as a mother, as a woman. Let’s embrace this wonderful journey.
Special Thanks to my husband, family, and friends for caring about me, loving me, believing in me, and empowering me to do my best.
“The life of a mother is the life of a child: you are two blossoms on a single branch.”
This video is about my personal journey of motherhood. How I overcame an identity crisis and rediscovered myself?
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